Internet Advice on Friendship

The internet is always going to be chock-full of advice on every subject matter there is. Some of it might be good advice but a lot of it is going to be completely ridiculous. Anybody who has fallen into one of those Pinterest traps knows exactly what I’m talking about.But if we can’t even make our holiday wreath look like the one we see online or the end result of our baking would look more at home on cake-wrecks, why do we trust the internet with other, more important things?

Now you know what I was pondering last night when I couldn’t fall asleep. Or maybe it’s why I couldn’t fall asleep. It amounted to the same thing, honestly. I eventually got out of bed and opened up my laptop, because I really wanted to see what the internet had to offer me about an important question: advice on friendship.

See, one of my friends is going through a hard time and she’s got to make a pretty big decision about her life. I don’t know what to say to her because I don’t want her to feel like I am pushing her in one direction or the other. I know what I think she should do but I am not the one who has to live with the consequences. Besides, if she takes a different path, I feel like things would be awkward because she knew what I’d do if I were her. So I’ve been keeping my mouth shut and just offer to listen to her. I don’t know if I am doing the right thing, though. I wanted to see what the internet said about it because the internet thinks it knows everything.

The first thing that came up was a news article about friendship problems. I read through it and realized that, although it didn’t say anything in the title to tip you off, it was clearly written for women. There was advice about what to do when you’re being excluded from mommy groups and finding yourself pregnant when your friend can’t conceive. Anyway, that article skewed a little old for me.

I switched to images to see if it lowered the age bracket a little. I found lots of quotes and memes. Jackpot! The images were from all kinds of different sites with different themes: learning how to set boundaries, how to make friends in college, why I need to stop comparing myself to my friends because apparently I will never measure up, how I could be friends with someone for a long time but that doesn’t mean we should stay friends forever. I read through some of the sites and felt better that I am on the right track with her.

The thing I noticed most, though, was that these were overwhelmingly pictures of women or geared toward them. I guess guys don’t look for these types of articles. I wonder what they do instead? Throw a basketball at somebody’s head or pull their hair? Call them names? I don’t know, I don’t really understand guys.

Alright, I am pretty tired so I’m going to sign off for today. Thanks for reading!